rip Freedom Project: February 03, 2008

Saturday, February 09, 2008

Success Begins with Believing

In a previous edition of Success Strategies, I talked about how in order to be successful, we must first define what success means to us, and that means getting CLEAR about what you want, writing it down, and thinking BIG!

If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. You have to believe you have the right stuff, that you are able to pull it off. You have to believe in yourself. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, or self-assurance, it is a deep-seeded belief that you have what it takes - the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.

Ultimately, you must learn to control your self-talk, eliminate any negative and limiting beliefs, and maintain a constant state of positive expectations.

Control Your Self-Talk
Researchers have found that the average person thinks as many as 50,000 thoughts a day. Sadly, many of those thoughts are negative -- I'm not management material... I'll never lose weight... It doesn't matter what I do, nothing ever works out for me. This is what psychologists call victim language. Victim language actually keeps you in a victim state of mind. It is a form of self-hypnosis that lulls you into a belief that you are unlovable and incompetent.

In order to get what you want from life, you need to give up this victim language and start talking to yourself like a winner -- I can do it... I know there is a solution... I am smart enough and strong enough to figure this out... Everything I eat helps me maintain my perfect body weight.

You Are Always Programming Your Subconscious Mind
Your subconscious mind is like the crew of a ship. You are it's captain. It is your job to give the crew orders. And when you do this, the crew takes everything you say literally. The crew (your subconscious) has no sense of humor. It just blindly follows orders. When you say, "Everything I eat goes straight to my hips," the crew hears that as an order: Take everything she eats, turn it into fat and put it on her hips. On the other hand, if you say, "Everything I eat helps me maintain my perfect body weight," the crew will begin to make that into reality by helping you make better food choices, exercise, and maintain the right metabolism rate for you body.

This power of your subconscious mind is the reason you must become very vigilant and pay careful attention to your spoken and internal statements. Unfortunately, most people don't realize they are committing negative self-talk, which is why it is best to enlist another person -- your success partner -- in monitoring each other's speaking. You can have a signal for interrupting each other when you use victim language.

Use Affirmations to Build Self-Confidence
One of the most powerful tools for building worthiness and self-confidence is the repetition of positive statements until they become a natural part of the way you think. These "affirmations" act to crowd out and replace the negative orders you have been sending your crew (your subconscious mind) all these years. I suggest that you create a list of 10 to 20 statements that affirm your belief in your worthiness and your ability to create the life of your dreams.

Of course, what to believe is up to you, but here are some examples of affirmations that have worked for others in the past:

I am worthy of love, joy and success.
I am smart and make wise choices.
I am loveable and capable.
I create anything I want.
I am able to solve any problem that comes my way.
I can handle anything that life hands me.
I have all the energy I need to do everything I want to do.
I am attracting all the right people into my life.

Believing in Yourself is an Attitude
Believing in yourself is a choice. It's an attitude you develop over time. It's now your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs. It might help to know that the latest brain research now indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with the proper training, coaching, and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.

You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to - anything at all - because, in fact, you can!

© 2008 Jack Canfield

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Tak Ada Gading Yang Tak Retak

Menjelang Imlek 2559 sudah banyak peristiwa akbar dalam kehidupan bermasyarakat... khususnya di ibukota negri ini, dimulai dari dunia finansial yang digunjang habis habisan oleh prinsip kekuranghatihatian dari para investment banker di negri paman sam, yang melanda dan membuat panik para gubernur bank sentral seantero jagad bahkan para kepala negara adikuasa...tingkah polah trader Socgen juga tidak kalah heboh yang bisa membuat apbn negara negara berkembang langsung ambruk... bayangkan dengan kekalahan sekitar 69 triliun... berapa nilai invetasi yang dikelolanya.
Masih segar dalam pemberitaan dan intrik intrik infotainment, berpulangnya Jendral Besar Bintang Penuh
Soeharto menyedot pangsa pasar terbesar dalam media mulai dari radio hingga media cetak dan televisi..."Seorang Yang Besar selalu membuat keputusan Besar, Berani bertindak Besar juga dengan konsekuensi Kesalahan dan Kekeliriuan Besar".
Pro dan Kontra senantiasa menghiasi Bapak Pembangunan Nasional , dalam kepemimpinannya 3 dekade, ban
yak menyentuh barisan grassroot tertutama dengan program agrarisnya yang populis, tetapi menyobek hati para aktivis ham dan reformis. Selalu ada putih diantara hitam ...dan hitam diantara putih...
Kembali banjir menjadi pengantar masuk nya tahun Tikus Tanah...selalu ada program dan komentar ..terutama anggaran.. bisa sudah kejadian...semua petinggi seolah olah mempertanyakan dan bertanya bertanya apa siapa dan mengapa....( basi deh )
Prinsip rumah
tangga sehat rupanya sudah dilupakan untuk diterapkan pada rumah tangga yang lebih besar... kebersihan pangkal kesehatan.. itulah basic.
Get master at the basic... motto itulah yang paling sering didengung dengungkan dalam pertemuan yang rutin diikuti ...tetapi sekali lagi manusia paling pintar untuk berkelit dan beralasan... dari prajurit sampi jendral, dari muda sampai tua, bahkan dari miskin sampai kaya.

Peribahasa T
ak Ada Gading Yang Tak Retak sebenarnya mirip dan serupa dengan Yin Yang,,, entah sudah berapa abad para leluhur kita mengerti tentang prinsip yang luar biasa ini, kejadian dan peristiwa baik makro maupun mikro memberi contoh pada kita semua, bahwa 10 adalah milik Allah, no bodys perfect, bahkan pada tatanan paling top sekalipun, sehingga konsep kultus individu adalah konsep yang paling sering memberikan kekecewaan bagi sebagian besar para pengikutnya.... lihatlah , sebegitu banyaknya contoh mulai dari abad permulaan sampai abad XXI ini, sang Jendral Besar yang begitu teguh dan terhormat dalam membangun dan membina relationship dengan Sang Ibu tidak bisa dilihat dengan jelas dan menjadi panutan dari putra dan putrinya, Sang Ratu Britania Raya juga mengalami hal serupa, Begawan Investasi yang begitu dipermuliakan dalam lingkungan finansial dengan kebijakannya yang luar biasa, mendermakan 83% dari kekayaannya untuk digunakan demi kepentingan umat manusia melalui riset kesehatan dan pengobatan penyakit- melalui Yayasan Bill & Melinda Gates- juga tak luput harus merelakan tahta perkawinan yang sudah dibina lebih dari 40 tahun,,,,,,, bayangkan Buffet berceramah didepan para akademisi dan praktisi bisnis, bahwa investasi dalam saham seperti layaknya sebuah perkawinan katolik.
Seorang Begawa
n dalam bisnis networking pun tak luput dari deraan hubungan , dimana konteks panutan relationship sudah menjadi tidak relevan lagi dibandingkan dengan ketidakharmonisan dan kepurapuraan, contoh ini mengingatkan pada seorang Mister America yang kehilangan keluarganya disaat menerima mahkota kemenangannya.

Apakah ini berharga??? Tidaka ada yang bisa menjawab dan menjelaskan kecuali yang mengalami, berat ringan , sedih dan tertawa, nakal dan alim, kaya miskin, semua nya adalah harmoni dalam yinyang, debit dan kredit ... (itu lebih jelas).
Gading Gajah senantiasa diberi ornamen ...untuk menutupi retak retak halus... demikian pula kehidupan kita semua... Tak Ada Gading Yang Tak Retak